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The Language of Presence

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Hi, welcome back to your Daily Mindfulness. In today's session, I'm going to share a simple language shift you can use to move toward greater internal safety, wholeness, and integration. Now, a lot of times where we get caught in disintegration, that is creating an oppositional relationship with parts of ourselves, is when we experience parts that we don't like. Emotions that are painful, sensations that are difficult to experience. And this causes us to get caught in a mentality of why is this here? Why am I feeling this? And can you hear the, the judgment imbued in that languaging? Also the tone of it is frustrated.

Why is this here again? We could change that tone to be, Oh, why is this here? And that would be leading with a little bit more curiosity and openness. But a lot of times, I don't know about you, it can be easy to feel an emotion of sadness or fear, and then go, why am I feeling this? And so in those moments, my encouragement to you is going to play around with shift from why am I feeling this, to, what is it like to feel this. Why am I feeling this, to, what is it like to feel this. And see if you could feel the difference just in hearing that. Why am I feeling this? To, what is it like to feel this? When we get caught up in, why am I feeling this were assessing the situation based on perhaps past experiences that we've had or based on experiences that we want to be having.

And we're looking at what we're currently experiencing, experiencing, and going, this doesn't match up to either of those. And so it puts us in a linear relationship to our life. Past future. Does this fit where I want to be and where I'm heading. And what that does is it makes us frustrated with our present moment experience and wanting to get someplace else.

Now, the thing with that is there are always going to be experiences that arise that are frustrating, that we don't particularly like. That maybe aren't as pleasant as full gratitude and joy. And so if we're constantly trying to get out of those experiences or we're frustrated at ourselves for experiencing those things, we're setting ourselves up for a lifetime of tension. But when we shift the language to what is it like to feel this, well, that takes us out of this relationship of trying to get someplace else or thinking that we should feel something other than what we're feeling and drops us more into presence with what we're feeling. It allows us to lead with curiosity, with interest and with, with a sense of like, I'm genuinely interested in what it's like to be with this experience right now as another part of being human.

And when we're doing that, we're welcoming this part of our experience into the wholeness of who we are, which leads to a deeper internal safety, integration and yes, wholeness. So there are of course times where asking, why am I feeling this can be useful, especially if it's related to our health. And we're wondering, okay, this seems to be out of nowhere. What does this mean? But a lot of times it's just coming from a place of resentment and anger. And in those moments, my encouragement is to play around with shifting that language from why am I feeling this, to, what is it like to feel this.

Try it out. Thank you for your practice. Let's settle into our meditation.

Cory Muscara

4.6

The Language of Presence

Personalized support for learning how to integrate mindfulness into your life. Delivered fresh everyday by our world renowned experts. Choose meditation duration:

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Your default time is based on your progress and is changed automatically as you practice.

Hi, welcome back to your Daily Mindfulness. In today's session, I'm going to share a simple language shift you can use to move toward greater internal safety, wholeness, and integration. Now, a lot of times where we get caught in disintegration, that is creating an oppositional relationship with parts of ourselves, is when we experience parts that we don't like. Emotions that are painful, sensations that are difficult to experience. And this causes us to get caught in a mentality of why is this here? Why am I feeling this? And can you hear the, the judgment imbued in that languaging? Also the tone of it is frustrated.

Why is this here again? We could change that tone to be, Oh, why is this here? And that would be leading with a little bit more curiosity and openness. But a lot of times, I don't know about you, it can be easy to feel an emotion of sadness or fear, and then go, why am I feeling this? And so in those moments, my encouragement to you is going to play around with shift from why am I feeling this, to, what is it like to feel this. Why am I feeling this, to, what is it like to feel this. And see if you could feel the difference just in hearing that. Why am I feeling this? To, what is it like to feel this? When we get caught up in, why am I feeling this were assessing the situation based on perhaps past experiences that we've had or based on experiences that we want to be having.

And we're looking at what we're currently experiencing, experiencing, and going, this doesn't match up to either of those. And so it puts us in a linear relationship to our life. Past future. Does this fit where I want to be and where I'm heading. And what that does is it makes us frustrated with our present moment experience and wanting to get someplace else.

Now, the thing with that is there are always going to be experiences that arise that are frustrating, that we don't particularly like. That maybe aren't as pleasant as full gratitude and joy. And so if we're constantly trying to get out of those experiences or we're frustrated at ourselves for experiencing those things, we're setting ourselves up for a lifetime of tension. But when we shift the language to what is it like to feel this, well, that takes us out of this relationship of trying to get someplace else or thinking that we should feel something other than what we're feeling and drops us more into presence with what we're feeling. It allows us to lead with curiosity, with interest and with, with a sense of like, I'm genuinely interested in what it's like to be with this experience right now as another part of being human.

And when we're doing that, we're welcoming this part of our experience into the wholeness of who we are, which leads to a deeper internal safety, integration and yes, wholeness. So there are of course times where asking, why am I feeling this can be useful, especially if it's related to our health. And we're wondering, okay, this seems to be out of nowhere. What does this mean? But a lot of times it's just coming from a place of resentment and anger. And in those moments, my encouragement is to play around with shifting that language from why am I feeling this, to, what is it like to feel this.

Try it out. Thank you for your practice. Let's settle into our meditation.

Cory Muscara

4.6

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