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Hi, welcome back to your Daily Mindfulness. In today's session, we're going to talk about relating to parts of yourself as an enemy. Now, I first want to start by saying I do not support relating to parts of yourself as enemies to overcome, including the ego. You may have noticed this in different personal development spaces that when people talk about the ego, it's often spoken about as this thing that we need to transcend, that we need to destroy, that we need to overcome. It's an enemy that we have to go to battle with.
And it's very easy to take this same relationship to other parts of us, the parts of us that might feel some fear, the parts of us that might get angry. Anything that we perceive is hurting us in some way, or even those around us, we can look at that and go, that is the enemy, that is the thing that I need to overcome. But we can really get into a troublesome relationship with ourselves when we're doing that repeatedly, because these parts that are arising, including anger or including fear, even though they can be frustrating, they also serve a purpose in different contexts. Anger can tell you when something is off and you need to respond in a certain way. Fear can tell you when there could be danger.
And so, often when we're frustrated is when emotions like that, or those parts get activated in contexts where we don't really want them to be there. But a lot of times that's because in previous contexts that were similar, we learned that this is the way that we need to respond in order to be safe, in order to get attention, in order to receive love. So it's not like these parts are trying to hurt you. They're, they just need some retraining. They just need to learn from the adult part of you how to respond to the situation, and when they're needed and when they're not.
So instead of relating to these parts as enemies to overcome, I support recognizing the positive intention of each of these parts in you, including the seemingly destructive ones, and learning to create an internal space where these parts can collaborate as a team to respond most appropriately to what's arising in the moment. This is a way that you can move toward what you're trying to do and the goals you're trying to reach without betraying parts of yourself along the way. So see if you can take this perspective into your day as you navigate the different things that you will. And as always thank you for your practice, because this is big work. Let's settle in for today's meditation.
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Hi, welcome back to your Daily Mindfulness. In today's session, we're going to talk about relating to parts of yourself as an enemy. Now, I first want to start by saying I do not support relating to parts of yourself as enemies to overcome, including the ego. You may have noticed this in different personal development spaces that when people talk about the ego, it's often spoken about as this thing that we need to transcend, that we need to destroy, that we need to overcome. It's an enemy that we have to go to battle with.
And it's very easy to take this same relationship to other parts of us, the parts of us that might feel some fear, the parts of us that might get angry. Anything that we perceive is hurting us in some way, or even those around us, we can look at that and go, that is the enemy, that is the thing that I need to overcome. But we can really get into a troublesome relationship with ourselves when we're doing that repeatedly, because these parts that are arising, including anger or including fear, even though they can be frustrating, they also serve a purpose in different contexts. Anger can tell you when something is off and you need to respond in a certain way. Fear can tell you when there could be danger.
And so, often when we're frustrated is when emotions like that, or those parts get activated in contexts where we don't really want them to be there. But a lot of times that's because in previous contexts that were similar, we learned that this is the way that we need to respond in order to be safe, in order to get attention, in order to receive love. So it's not like these parts are trying to hurt you. They're, they just need some retraining. They just need to learn from the adult part of you how to respond to the situation, and when they're needed and when they're not.
So instead of relating to these parts as enemies to overcome, I support recognizing the positive intention of each of these parts in you, including the seemingly destructive ones, and learning to create an internal space where these parts can collaborate as a team to respond most appropriately to what's arising in the moment. This is a way that you can move toward what you're trying to do and the goals you're trying to reach without betraying parts of yourself along the way. So see if you can take this perspective into your day as you navigate the different things that you will. And as always thank you for your practice, because this is big work. Let's settle in for today's meditation.
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