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Regrets vs. Lessons

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Hi, and welcome to your Daily Mindfulness. Today, I'm going to talk about the difference between regrets and lessons and how this understanding can really fuel your personal growth, bring more ease and empowerment into your life. So for me personally, one of the most important lessons on my mindfulness path has been learning to reframe the way that I look back at my past errors. So when we remember our mistakes, whether it was a moment where we blurted out something insensitive, a time when we felt we really embarrassed ourselves somehow, or a moment of reactivity or rage, we often really beat ourselves up for our mistakes and make ourselves feel shame, negativity, and regret just over and over and over again. But doing this, we don't learn very much.

We just generate a lot of inner turmoil. But if we can catch ourselves in those moments and take a mindful pause, then we can ground ourselves in presence, step back from the painful memory and choose to approach this memory in a whole new way. We can choose to focus on what we would like to learn from this experience and who we would like to become going forward. If we feel that we caused pain, embarrassment or harm to another person, we can do this practice in the spirit of honoring them and committing to being a better version of ourselves going forward. You know, having better behavior.

So instead of punishing ourselves over and over again and not changing, we're learning and growing for the benefit of everyone. Now, this practice may sound deceptively simple, but there is a transformative power in learning to shift our perspective from regrets to learning lessons. This simple effort repeated again and again, empowers us with perspective, wisdom, and inner strength. So I encourage you the next time you feel the tug of regret starting to pull you under, see if you can pause, become present, and instead of beating yourself up, recognize your error as a valuable opportunity for growth and another precious step along your journey to awakening. As always, thank you for your practice and for being here with us.

Let's settle in now for today's meditation.

Melli O'Brien

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Regrets vs. Lessons

Personalized support for learning how to integrate mindfulness into your life. Delivered fresh everyday by our world renowned experts. Choose meditation duration:

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Hi, and welcome to your Daily Mindfulness. Today, I'm going to talk about the difference between regrets and lessons and how this understanding can really fuel your personal growth, bring more ease and empowerment into your life. So for me personally, one of the most important lessons on my mindfulness path has been learning to reframe the way that I look back at my past errors. So when we remember our mistakes, whether it was a moment where we blurted out something insensitive, a time when we felt we really embarrassed ourselves somehow, or a moment of reactivity or rage, we often really beat ourselves up for our mistakes and make ourselves feel shame, negativity, and regret just over and over and over again. But doing this, we don't learn very much.

We just generate a lot of inner turmoil. But if we can catch ourselves in those moments and take a mindful pause, then we can ground ourselves in presence, step back from the painful memory and choose to approach this memory in a whole new way. We can choose to focus on what we would like to learn from this experience and who we would like to become going forward. If we feel that we caused pain, embarrassment or harm to another person, we can do this practice in the spirit of honoring them and committing to being a better version of ourselves going forward. You know, having better behavior.

So instead of punishing ourselves over and over again and not changing, we're learning and growing for the benefit of everyone. Now, this practice may sound deceptively simple, but there is a transformative power in learning to shift our perspective from regrets to learning lessons. This simple effort repeated again and again, empowers us with perspective, wisdom, and inner strength. So I encourage you the next time you feel the tug of regret starting to pull you under, see if you can pause, become present, and instead of beating yourself up, recognize your error as a valuable opportunity for growth and another precious step along your journey to awakening. As always, thank you for your practice and for being here with us.

Let's settle in now for today's meditation.

Melli O'Brien

4.7

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